Compiled by Ellen Lacter, Ph.D., January 1, 2026
Resources for DID and PTSD:
I. For Partners
II. Healing Sexuality
III. Parenting Traumatized Children
I. For Partners
10 Tips For Spouses and Partners of Survivors with Dissociative Identity Disorder, by Kathy Broady, MSW
https://www.discussingdissociation.com/2016/06/10-tips-for-spouses-and-partners-of-someone-with-dissociative-identity-disorder/
A Relationship with 40 Identities (Lovers with Dissociative Identity Disorder) (video)
After the War Zone: A Practical Guide for Returning Troops and Their Families, by Friedman & Stone (2008):
https://traumadissociation.com/books-partners-family-ptsd-dissociative-abuse.html
Allies in Healing: When the person you love was sexually abused as a child, by Laura Davis (1992)
Ghosts in the Bedroom: A Guide for Partners of Incest Survivors, by Ken Graber (1991)
Healing Together: A Couple’s Guide to Coping with Trauma and Post-Traumatic Stress, by Suzanne B. Phillips (2009)
Healing Broken Bonds: A couple’s workbook for complex trauma, by Heather MacIntosh, Ph.D, C.Psych. (2025)
Heather Tuba: Trauma-Informed Support for Partners of Survivors:
https://www.heathertuba.com/articles/
How Childhood Sexual Abuse Affects Interpersonal Relationships:
http://ritualabuse.us/research/sexual-abuse/how-childhood-sexual-abuse-affects-interpersonal-relationships/
How Does PTSD Affect Families, by U.S. Department of Veterans Affairs:
https://www.ptsd.va.gov/family/effect_families.asp
How Does PTSD Affect Families, by Patience Press (http://patiencepress.com/library.html):
http://patiencepress.com/uploads/1/3/7/9/137970557/ptg2.pdf
How People Heal From Trauma, Thanks to Helpers:
https://brickelandassociates.com/how-to-heal-after-trauma-helpers/
How to Repair Love with Trauma-Informed Couples Therapy, by Robyn Brickel, LMFT: : https://brickelandassociates.com/trauma-informed-couples-therapy/
If The Man You Love Was Abused: A Couple’s Guide to Healing, by Marie H. Browne (2007)
Loving a Trauma Survivor: Understanding Childhood Trauma’s Impact on Relationships, Robyn Brickel, LMFT
https://brickelandassociates.com/trauma-survivor-relationships/
Loving Someone with PTSD: A Practical Guide to Understanding and Connecting with Your Partner after Trauma, by Aphrodite T. Matsakis PhD (2014)
My unique vantage point– parenting dissociative identity disorder with dissociative identity disorder, by Carol B:
https://information.pods-online.org.uk/my-unique-vantage-point-parenting-dissociative-identity-disorder-with-dissociative-identity-disorder/
Supporting Someone Who Was Abused as a Child, by the National Association for People Abused in Childhood:
https://napac.org.uk/project/7-supporters-of-survivors
Partners With PTSD, by Frank Ochberg, M.D.:
http://www.giftfromwithin.org/html/partners.html
Patience Press (for Help for trauma survivors, war veterans, family members, friends and therapists):
http://www.patiencepress.com/patience_press/Welcome.html
Petals of a Rose: short documentary (about 15 minutes) produced by a son and his mother (with DID):
https://www.dylancrumpler.com/watch-petals-of-a-rose
The Post Traumatic Stress Disorder Relationship: How to Support Your Partner and Keep Your Relationship Healthy, by Diane England (2007)
Preventing Compassion Fatigue: What Veteran Spouse/Partner Caregivers Need to Know:
http://giftfromwithin.org/html/Compassion-Fatigue-What-Veteran-Caregivers-Need-to-Know.html
The risk of rescuing: pitfalls and promises in supporting dissociative survivors (PODS):
https://information.pods-online.org.uk/the-risk-of-rescuing-pitfalls-and-promises-in-supporting-dissociative-survivors/
The road less traveled: how to support your dissociative partner, Parts One and Two, by Rob Spring:
https://information.pods-online.org.uk/the-road-less-travelled-part-one-how-to-support-your-dissociative-partner/
Sidran: For Survivors and Loved Ones:
https://www.sidran.org/for-survivors-and-loved-ones/
The Significant Other’s Guild to Dissociative Identity Disorder, by Jeff Vineburg (2014):
http://www.toddlertime.com/dx/did/did-guild.htm
Supporting a Loved One Through PTSD or Panic Attacks:
http://sometimesmagical.wordpress.com/2013/10/26/supporting-a-loved-one-through-ptsd-or-panic-attacks/
Supporting a Loved One with DID or OSDD, Kylie Svenson, LCSW
https://drive.google.com/open?id=1zG4rLqnsYrKMOJycnlf7PgpkdXuZ3s5qFN9a5b-JEWo
Supporting Someone Who Has Been Raped or Sexually Assaulted:
http://www.healthyplace.com/abuse/articles/supporting-someone-who-has-been-raped-or-sexually-assaulted/
Trust After Trauma: A Guide to Relationships for Survivors and Those Who Love Them, Aphrodite Matsakis (1998)
When Your Partner Was Sexually Abused as a Child: A Guide for Partners
http://www.ksacc.ca/docs/when_your_partner_was_sexually_abused_as_a_child.pdf?LanguageID=EN-US
Outgrowing the Pain Together: A Book for Spouses and Partners of Adults Abused as Children, Eliana Gil (1992)
II. Healing Sexuality
Body & Soul, Healed & Whole: An Invitational Guide to Healthy Sexuality after Trauma, Abuse, and Coercive Control, by Tabitha K. Westbrook (2025)
Healing Sex: A Mind-Body Approach to Healing Sexual Trauma, by Staci Haines (2007)
Healing Sexual Trauma Workbook: Somatic Skills to Help You Feel Safe in Your Body, Create Boundaries, and Live with Resilience, by Erika Shershun MFT (2021)
Healing Sexual Trauma Workbook: A Survivor’s Guide to Recovery, Empowerment, and Self-Care, CPTSD, PTSD, by Paula Ocampo (2024)
Reclaiming Pleasure: A Sex Positive Guide for Moving Past Sexual Trauma and Living a Passionate Life, by Holly Richmond PhD (2021)
The Sexual Healing Journey: A Guide for Survivors of Sexual Abuse, 3rd Edition, by Wendy Maltz (2012)
III. Parenting Traumatized Children
Beyond Consequences, Logic, and Control: A Love-Based Approach to Helping Attachment-Challenged Children With Severe Behaviors by Heather T. Forbes and B. Bryan Post (2006).
The Child Survivor: Healing Developmental Trauma and Dissociation, by Joyanna L. Silberg (2013).
The Dissociative Child: Diagnosis, Treatment, and Management by Joyanna L. Silberg (1998).
Does My Child Have PTSD?: What to Do When Your Child Is Hurting from the Inside Out, by Jolene Philo (2015).
Girl Alone:
https://traumadissociation.com/books-partners-family-ptsd-dissociative-abuse.html
The Handbook of Complex Trauma and Dissociation in Children: Theory, Research, and Clinical Applications, by Ana M. Gómez & Jillian Hosey (editors ) (2025)
Healing the Fractured Child: Diagnosis and Treatment of Youth With Dissociation, by Frances S. Waters (2016)
Hope for Healing: A Parent’s Guide to Trauma and Attachment by The Association for Training on Trauma and Attachment in Children. (2011)
The Magic Castle: A Mother’s Harrowing True Story Of Her Adoptive Son’s Multiple Personalities– And The Triumph Of Healing, by Carole Smith (1998)
No Matter What: An Adoptive Family’s Story of Hope, Love and Healing by Sally Donovan (2013).
Parenting Traumatized Children Detached: Surviving Reactive Attachment Disorder by Jessie Hogsett (2011).
Supporting a Loved One with PTSD: A Compassionate Guide, by Raleigh Souther (2024)
https://sanjosementalhealth.org/mental-health/supporting-with-ptsd
Supporting Traumatized Children and Teenagers: A Guide to Providing Understanding and Help, by Atle Dyregrov (2010):
https://traumadissociation.com/books-partners-family-ptsd-dissociative-abuse.html