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Overcoming the Devastation of Coerced Perpetration and its Fundamental Role in Extreme Abuse, by an Anonymous Survivor-Psychologist


The important autobiographical essay posted below was contributed to this website by a colleague who is both a ritual abuse survivor and a psychologist. My colleague’s hope in writing this in-depth and heart-wrenching essay is to help other survivors who, like herself, have been subjected to unthinkable cruelty and abuse in order to coerce them to harm other victims. Coerced perpetration is a...

For Those Who Condemn Themselves for Acts Coerced Under Torture


Introduction One of the most disturbing horrors described by survivors of extreme child abuse is having been subjected to torture to coerce them, while being tortured, to harm or kill other victims. Many survivors describe clear memories of first being subjected to this form of abuse as young children. The subsequent moral injury is devastating. For the purposes of this article, the term...

Forgiveness as an Act of Defiance, by Reverend Lynn James, LMHC


I have spent the past 20 years as a counselor working with survivors of all kinds of violence.  I have listened to brutal details of atrocities that happen daily in all kinds of war zones. Too often, these war zones are right in people’s own homes and lives. What strikes me over and over again are some troubling polarities that are often imposed on victims about forgiveness, such as: Forgiveness...

Spirituality, Evil, and Suffering


The Messages Communicated to Child Abuse Victims As a trauma therapist, I hear daily how people’s spiritual beliefs can be a deep source of comfort and wisdom.  However, sadly, in some instances, spiritual beliefs and messages can actually reinforce the messages of child abusers and increase the self-blame and the pain of victims and survivors. Abused and neglected children, and sometimes even...

Seeing and Breaking the Chains: Steps for Recognizing On-Going Abuse and How to Break FREE


Note from Ellen Lacter: This piece is based on a presentation by Arauna Morgan, MA, which was given at the May 2013 Survivorship Conference in Oakland California. Arauna Morgan is a trusted colleague, in the process of becoming a California Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, and a survivor of ritual abuse and mind control. I recommend her as a consultant to therapists working with survivors...

Deep Inner Decisions that Allow Survivors to Heal


Choices of Strength and Healing Positions of Defeat To choose life. To consider death as an option. To have deep inner reasons to live. To simply exist or look to others for reasons to live. To find safety if suicidal feelings are not controllable. To look to others to magically stop suicidal feelings. To hunger for truth, despite the pain, for freedom. To run from truth and hope for healing...

Nonviolent (Compassionate) Communication


Many ritual abuse survivors have no models for healthy relationships, parent-child, or between adults. Their world consists of only perpetrators and victims– people who abuse power, and their victims. The concept of reciprocally beneficial relationships, of people genuinely caring about the needs and feelings of others, and giving of themselves willingly, is foreign, unknown. In relationships...

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